[A client conversation I had recently]
Her: I'm sick of t-shirts and I want to branch out. I've never really been a blouse person though. Me: Do you wear any of the blouses you own? Her: No Me: OK, then I think... Her: That I should just force myself to wear blouses?
Mindfulness teaches us that we should focus on the present moment, while acknowledging and accepting our feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. A lesson that we can take from this practice is to dress for the present stage we're in and be mindful of how we feel in our clothes. It might sound silly, but it's an easy step we can take that contributes to contentment.
Dressing for the present stage we're in means dressing for our present body and our present lifestyle. Let go of comparing your body to your younger body or someone else's body. Your body is simply a badass vessel that lets you experience life. And whatever stage it's at, it deserves acceptance (including clothes that fit). Stop saying I'll buy myself clothes when I reach a certain weight. Sure, you can be cost-conscious and not buy yourself an entire wardrobe based on every increase or decrease on the scale. But allow yourself some clothes you feel good in at the very stage you're at. Being mindful of how you feel in your clothes may be physical or psychological. If you always feel uncomfortable in blouses, regardless of whether it's something physical (like the fabric) or psychological (like it's simply not your style), don't force yourself into them. Most likely, you'll buy them and they'll just sit in your closet. Find other ways to branch out; a good Stylist can help you do just that. self-acceptance & style
Accepting our true selves means to let go of harsh self-criticism and accept our own identities. To accept your true self in the style realm means to let go of setting expectations of how we think we're supposed to dress. Some believe we're supposed to dress for our age or our industry or some status in life. In the eloquent words of Gandhi, "screw that." OK, I may have misquoted him, but let go of these expectations society or you have put on yourself. Wear what you're comfortable in, what makes you feel your best, what feels like you.
Even as a Personal Stylist, I struggle with these concepts; I am a work-in-progress. I often put an expectation on myself to be dressed in current trends that oh-so-flatter my body, some specific way I think a client would expect to see me. But you know what? We're living through a pandemic. I barely leave the house. I wear sweats most days. When I get to see a client or do something social(ly distant), sure, I wear something more dressed up and on-trend. Both outfits are me though, neither affect my ability to style my clients in ways that make them feel best, and I'm working to let go of expectations. Tips for working with a stylist
Get yo'self a Stylist that understands the stage you're at (with your body and your lifestyle), what makes you comfortable, and what makes you YOU. A good Stylist will:
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